I'm 14 and still a virgin, but my boyfriend fingers me and gives me oral sex. For a couple of weeks, my vagina has been itchy and red, and it hurts when I touch it. I don't feel comfortable talking to my mom about this. What should I do? Friction and pressure from fingering or oral sex can cause irritation in the sensitive genital area. But itching and redness that lasts for a couple of weeks also could be a sign of an infection that could get worse if it isn't treated.

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Fingering is typically the use of fingers or hands to sexually stimulate the vulva including the clitoris or vagina. Fingering may also include the use of fingers to sexually stimulate the anus. Fingering may be performed on oneself masturbation or by or with a sexual partner. When performed on the vulva or vagina by a sexual partner, it is a form of mutual masturbation , and is analogous to a handjob the manual stimulation of the penis.
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Before we get into the details of how to become a fingering master, allow me to convince you why you should even bother in the first place. Most established heterosexual couples have long since abandoned fingering. For some, it might even date back to their junior high or high school days, furtively hiding in the back of the movie theater or behind the school gym. Fingering her will instantly breathe some new life into the bedroom, and will remind her that getting fingered used to feel—and can still feel—thrilling. Every woman is different, of course, but I think many would agree that getting fingered feels phenomenal. Fingers can give much more focused, deliberate, and intense stimulation than any other body part. You can also use one hand inside of her and the other on her clitoris.
But how often do we hear the nitty-gritty of how we can actually better understand our deepest desires and most embarrassing questions? Bustle has enlisted Vanessa Marin, a sex therapist , to help us out with the details. No gender, sexual orientation, or question is off limits, and all questions remain anonymous. Q: I just started dating women, and I'm not super experienced with it. Do you have a general primer on how to give a handjob to a woman?